In graduate school, one of our final classes was a capstone class, where all the groups work on the same live client and compete against each other for the "business."
My group of friends took capstone a couple of semesters before me and won their class. So when I took capstone my final semester I felt like I
could had to win it too because they did. It wasn't pressure I felt from anyone but myself. And when my team didn't win, I was upset at what I felt was a personal failure.
I go through this time and time again. Putting pressure on myself to accomplish something because I know someone who did it that way.
But I don't have to. I can do it my own way according to my own timeline. I don't know if this is a lesson that will ever fully sink in for me as I feel like I'm continually having to learn it and remind myself to STOP COMPARING myself to others.
Life is not a race. It is not a competition. It is a journey. Meant to be enjoyed as we go.