At some point in my dating life, I remember saying (though I can't remember if I actually said this to someone or I just promised it to myself) that I didn't want to date a guy who plays video games.
Then I met DH.
And I threw my rule on the ground and stomped on it.
Truth is I wasn't exactly thrilled about the video games. But he was cute, we could have an actual conversation and he made me laugh. (What is it about men who make us laugh that leaves us with legs and hearts wide open?)
I was listening to a morning radio show the other day with the hosts talking about men who played video games. The women were pretty adamant anti-video gamer husbands. Their argument mostly being that the video gamer would be so engrossed with his computer and/or Xbox, they would be ignored. And no woman likes to be ignored. Well, at least not all the time.
While I tease DH a lot about his video games making him a giant nerd, he does make an effort to spend some time with me as well. Any hobby or interest - whether video games or something else - is going to use up some time away from the spouse.
I want to spend time with my husband. But not every second of every day. I don't try to wean him off the video games because a) that's how he relaxes in the evenings, 2) I want us to have our separate interests (just as we did when we were dating) so that both of us can hold onto who we are as individuals while we face Life as a pair.
What DH taught me about video gamers is that while it may not be the coolest hobby in the world (like sailing, rowing or mountain climbing or something equally as cool), there are worse habits. Sure he may spend a lot of time at his desktop moving fictional, animated armies against other fictional, animated armies, but at least I don't have to share the TV remote with him.